Does Your Attitude create Pleasure or Pain? – Mark J Holland NLP Mind Coach

“Our attitudes control our lives. Attitudes are a secret power working twenty-four hours a day, for good or bad. It is of paramount importance that we know how to harness and control this great force.”
- Tom Blandi

Perhaps as important as what you believe is the manner in which you believe it. Your attitude can turn a miserable event into a pleasant one; or a good time into a nightmare. By controlling your attitude, you have the power to control any situation and make what you want from it.

In order to determine the best attitude for any given situation, you should take some time to decide the kind of person you want to be, and the image you want to convey. You may be interested in being the life of the party, the quintessential sympathetic ear, or the strong and silent type with the ability to take the lead at any moment. Once you are aware of your true self, you can begin to adjust your attitude to match.

Here are some important considerations to keep in mind as you develop your personal attitude preferences:


Be yourself

“He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.”
- Raymond Hull

Whatever attitude you choose, be sure it is a reflection of your true self. Being true to yourself is crucial to the success of your positive thinking program. You have only one life to live, and spending it trying to emulate someone else robs the world of the person you could have been.

You may not know yourself as well as you would like to, or as well as you should. If you have been following the methods in this blog so far, you may have discovered more than you knew before. One of the most wondrous aspects of humankind is that there is always something new to discover about ourselves; always some new avenue of interest to explore or stand to take. We possess the capacity to never succumb to boredom. It is amazing that with all the activity happening in the world, so many people experience lulls and cannot find anything to occupy themselves with. If you ever become bored, you have stopped developing as a person and should take steps to rectify the situation immediately. Knowing yourself is a constant journey that should never cease.
How can you get to know yourself better? Try some of the following techniques to discover aspects of your personality you may not have even known existed:

• Date Yourself. Choose an activity you either know you enjoy or believe you will enjoy, and make a date to do it by yourself. Treat this date as you would any other commitment: dress nicely, arrive on time, and don’t put it off unless an absolute emergency comes up. When you go out on your date, notice the things that make you feel good. Enjoy the experience of being with yourself and doing something fun. When you are finished, reflect on the date just as you would with any other event. What did you enjoy about the experience? What did you dislike? What would you have changed? You should make a date with yourself at least once a month, even if it’s just for a walk in the park or an evening on the lounge with popcorn and rental movies.
• Talk to Yourself. You are capable of making intelligent conversation with other people to discover more about them. Why not do the same with yourself? You can hold a conversation with yourself aloud or in your head, whichever you are comfortable with. Ask yourself leading questions, and then take some time to think about the honest answers. Lying to yourself is the worst offense you can commit.
• Record Yourself. When you discover new aspects of your personality or sparks of interest you didn’t know you had, write them down and remember them. You may not have time to explore a particular thought when it occurs to you, but if you jot it down and come back to it later, you will be able to expound on it. It can be helpful to keep a small notebook or diary with you to write things down as they occur to you, and flip through it when you have a few spare minutes.
• Analyse Yourself. The way you react to social situations and world events can be very revealing about yourself. Keep yourself informed about what’s going on in the world, either by reading the newspaper, watching television news, or frequenting news feed web sites. Take note of your reactions to real events and situations, and try to apply them to situations in your life. You can use this to help you determine why you feel a certain way about people or situations that impact your everyday life, and then plan your attitude toward them around your newfound knowledge.


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Fear to Freedom NLP in Action - Mark J Holland NLP Mind Coach

Fear to Freedom – NLP in Action - Mark J Holland NLP Mind Coach

Do you have a:
Fear of public speaking,
Fear of speaking
Fear of success
Fear of water
Fear of confrontation,
Fear of closing the sale,
Fear of heights
Fear of spiders
Fear of snakes
Fear of the dentist
Fear of death
Fear of god

Think for a moment when we isolate the letters of the word FEAR:

False
Evidence
Appearing
Real

Create a resource anchor to remove FEAR from your life. Overcome fear, reduce stress and worry.

If you or someone you know has a fear, and would like to have it removed, call or email TODAY! I have more advanced techniques to help you go from Fear to FREEDOM!

In this video you will learn a technique toward creating more success in your own life.

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How to create More Success in Life - Mark J Holland - NLP Mind Coach

How do you view Success and Failure? Are you in the moment of success or focusing on the failures? Here I will give a brief overview on how to store this information in a resourceful way.

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Believe in Yourself – Mark J Holland NLP Mind Coach

“Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can.”
- Richard Bach

Believing in yourself and your abilities is absolutely the most important thing you can do on your journey to positive thinking. It is critical to develop the self-confidence you need to carry you through to the realization of your goals.

Self-confidence is a bit different from self-esteem. Self-esteem refers to your feelings about yourself, your behaviours and your worth as a person. Self-confidence is your belief in your abilities and in the way you present yourself to the world. The actions of others are more likely to erode your self-confidence rather than your self-esteem. However, the two emotions have quite a bit in common. Both are measures of your inherent or developed belief in yourself- and both can be easily pushed off balance, resulting in either over-confident or defeatist behaviours that distance you from your ultimate objectives.

As previously discussed, you need to create a balance between too little self-confidence and too much. You cannot accomplish anything without self-confidence; on the other hand, too much self-confidence can ensure that you don’t try hard enough to reach your goals, and you will fall short of realizing your possibilities.

Once you understand that you truly can do anything you put your mind to, you will have unlocked the key to changing the way you think. There is no limit to the power of the human mind. Your possibilities really are endless.

You can help yourself build self-confidence through a simple daily exercise you develop yourself after learning the basic premise. Like most of the practices for working with positive thinking, you may feel ridiculous at first (yes, we are aiming to make you feel ridiculous. Next we break out the funny nose glasses and technicolour outfit). Here are the basic steps to your daily self-confidence routine, which is best performed in the morning as you prepare to face the day:

• Decimate distractions. You need this time to yourself. You deserve this time to yourself. While you’re performing your self-confidence routine, don’t answer the phone, check your e-mail, watch television, or listen to the radio. Let household members know that this time is your time, and you would prefer not to be disturbed.
• Get physical. Pamper yourself with your daily physical preparations. When you shower, use your favourite soap or scented body wash. Choose clothing that makes you feel good and matches your mood. Make yourself comfortable with the way you look, and your self-confidence will rise to match it.
• Focus forward. As you get ready, reflect on what you want to accomplish for the day. Be sure to consider the mood you want to set for yourself as well as any goals or objectives you will reach. You might even partake in a quick receptive visualization session to see yourself reaching your goals and cement them in your mind.
• Get pumped. Now comes the ridiculous part. Stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eyes, and sing your own praises. Out loud. Tell yourself that you are the person you want to be; that you possess worthwhile qualities; that you can do that which you are now setting out to do. Be as specific as possible. Instead of saying, “I am competent,” say: “I know how to handle problems when they arise.” The more specific you are, the more effective your self-confidence routine will prove to be.

Self-confidence is the glue that holds your personality together. If you are serious about changing your life, developing a healthy self-confidence will equip you to do it quickly and effortlessly. Don’t let fear, worry and doubt keep you from blossoming into confidence. You can accomplish anything, as long as you believe you can. It really is as simple as that.

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