Are Your Thoughts Negative or are Your Thoughts Positive Discover how to Change Your Mind, and Change Your Life with Mark J Holland NLP Mind Coach

“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
- Abraham Lincoln

When tapping in to the power of positive thinking, the most important step is to create a mindset that allows you to think positively. Once you have pulled the weeds from your mental garden, you can begin to sow the seeds that will anchor your new way of life.

Creating a positive mindset takes training. In much the same manner as runners train their bodies to endure long periods of sustained activity, you can train your mind to sustain positive thought, and naturally defer to pleasant or optimistic paths. At first, thinking positively may feel awkward or ridiculous (particularly if you’re the type of person who believes perky morning people should be shot). Keep in mind, though, that it does get easier the more you do it, and eventually, sustaining a positive mindset will be as natural as breathing.

Like any training program, there are steps you can follow to achieve your optimal results: in this case, a positive mental outlook. You may recall that it takes 21 days to form a new habit (When you make an appointment with an NLP Coach it can be done over a few sessions). Therefore, you should perform each of the steps for at least 21 consecutive days. You can take on one step at a time, or implement the whole program; just be sure you aren’t leaving anything out.

Step up to your mental treadmill, and let the training begin!

Warm-up: Shake Out Negative Kinks

When you think about it, it’s obvious: negative is the opposite of positive, so in order to instil a positive mindset you need to get rid of negative thoughts. Sounds simple enough, right? The process is an easy one, but it takes practice to make it stick.

The first step in clearing negativity from your mind is to really pay attention to your thoughts. Whenever the words can’t, shouldn’t, wouldn’t, won’t, not, or never enter your mind, concentrate on what you’re thinking and turn it around to eliminate the negative wording. For example:

Your spouse and children are gone for a few hours, and you have the place to yourself. You’re indulging in one of your favourite activities. In the midst of your enjoyment, you start to feel guilty. You think: I really shouldn’t be doing this. I could be getting started on the project I promised someone else I’d take care of. Your enjoyment starts to fade, and you stop what you’re doing, resentful that you have to tackle this boring project when you have so little time to yourself...

Does this sound familiar? The moments you hear yourself think shouldn’t, stop right there and change direction. In this scenario, you might instead think I really should be doing this. Taking time for me is important, and when I’m relaxed and satisfied I will be able to do a better job on that project I promised someone else. I’m so glad I got the opportunity to do something I enjoy.

Try to do this every time a negative thought creeps in. The more often you banish negative ideas from your mind, the easier positive thinking will become. You will be more relaxed and receptive to positive solutions.

Work Those Mouth Muscles

If a picture is worth a thousand words, then a smile is worth a million. The power of a smile is incredible. Even if you don’t feel like smiling, the simple act of lifting the corners of your mouth can help you lift your entire spirit and find something worth smiling about. Some of the greatest self-help advice out there comes from those who advocate “fake it until you make it.” This is especially true when it comes to positive thinking, and faking a smile goes a long way toward producing the genuine thing. You may end up laughing at yourself merely because you know you have nothing to smile about.

Another great thing about smiles- they’re highly contagious. A smile spreads faster than a cold in a daycare. Most people can’t help smiling back when someone casts a happy expression their way. This is a simple and exciting theory that you can test out for yourself. Go to any public place and start smiling at random people, then keep track of how many smile back (even suspicious smirking counts!). You’ll likely find that 9 out of 10 of your targets return your joyful expression to some small degree, and you’ve probably just made their day a little brighter, too.

Learning to smile on demand is an important step in developing a permanently positive mindset. One good technique for summoning smiles is to choose a happy memory that never fails to fill you with good feelings. Keep this memory at the front of your mental catalogue, and access it whenever you feel a case of the blues coming on. It may not solve your problems, but it will at least make you smile- which in turn helps you relax and take an objective look at your situation. Smiling often creates a mental cue for the foundation of positive thinking and helps prime the pumps of happiness.

You should also spend a little time in front of the mirror observing your own expressions. At first this practice may seem uncomfortable or downright silly, but smiling at your own reflection has a positive effect on your psyche. You can even practice different smile variations: the amused smirk; the close-lipped leg-pulling smile; the toothy grin; the laugh-out-loud open-mouthed smile. Think of it as an Olympic event...it’s your personal Smile Marathon, and you’ll win the gold every time!

Do Some Reps
When developing a positive mindset, the importance of repetition cannot be understated. Exercise is the key to building any muscle, so by viewing your optimistic outlook as a muscle, you can develop a reserve of happiness that will carry you through the most gruelling events.

This is not to say you shouldn’t worry about anything. Ignoring troubling events won’t make them go away. It’s important to face your problems while looking at them through a positive lens. The positive mindset itself doesn’t erase your troubles. It is simply a tool to allow you to find a solution without burning yourself out through stress and anxiety. You will find it far easier to solve problems when you can step back and look at the situation in a positive light; and often the solution will present itself with little effort, simply because your mind is clear and open enough to notice it.

The more you practice positive thinking, the more naturally it will come to you। You will find that frustrating everyday occurrences dwindle to minor nuisances, and eventually cease to trouble you altogether. Keep practicing positive thought processes, and you will be well on your way to a low-stress, high-energy lifestyle that will allow you to accomplish anything you desire.

Cool-Down: Feel the Burn

As you come to the end of your daily positive thinking workout, look back and reflect on your progress. Was there anything that seemed easier to you? Were you able to find a faster solution to a problem that would have ordinarily eaten up a lot of time in worrying? Do you feel more relaxed and ready to try again tomorrow?

Congratulate yourself on your victories. By reinforcing your accomplishments, you help to firm the foundation of your new positive mindset and lay the groundwork for your success. Every positive thought brings you one step closer to your ultimate goal. You will soon realize that you can do this, and you will have much greater enthusiasm as you proceed.

Now that you’ve planted the seeds for positive thinking, the next step is to learn how to care for your mental garden. In my next blog you will discover the fuel you need to nurture your seeds and coax new shoots from the soil of your mind. Meanwhile, keep pumping that positive thinking iron!

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Using NLP to Overcome Procrastination... Mark J Holland NLP Mind Coach

Procrastination is the behaviour that is characterized by the postponement of action or a task to a later time. Knowing what is the cause is the very first step to overcome the problem. There are various reasons why people are procrastinating. Some are often caused by the environment that they lived in and their upbringing. There are some philosophy and study that states that those people who received a lot of criticism in their early life are the ones who become procrastinators.


What triggers procrastination?

• Stress. Everybody knows that stress can really trigger responses in our system and that it causes reaction to something negatively. When a person feels anxious and worried, they tend to be less productive and restless. Procrastination is applied in this type of situation as your way to cope up in the stress and as a mechanism to relieve from the stress. In this kind of situation your mind will tell you that you have to do the job needed and you should not feel the stress involved to it.
• Overwhelmed. If you are having many things and schedules to take in a day, this also triggers procrastination. It is like your brain will not cooperate with the schedule which is unreasonable to achieve. The only ironic part of this that is crucial is time. You have to perform at your best to complete the tasks that were given to you.
• Laziness. The feeling of emotional and physical restlessness can also trigger procrastination. If you think that the work given to you will take too much energy to complete. You will think to put off the task and you are procrastinated to conserve the energy. As you continue to put off the task for the reason that you lack the energy to do the job, you will surely find your procrastination habit to be out of control.
• Lack of skill. This is one of the things that people are afraid to admit to their self. For instance, you are given a task but you do not know you can complete it but then you have to continue to complete the task because it is needed; yet you procrastinate. This trigger is based on you avoiding the pain. You are not sure to complete the task so you avoid the pain of being failed. The pattern of avoiding the pain that you feel through procrastination is like a crippling habit.
• Perfectionism. This is very usual thinking that may lead to procrastination. Some people believe that they should perform a job perfectly and these bring stress to them.

The above mentioned are the causes that triggers procrastination to people. As what we said earlier, sometimes procrastination is caused also by the environment that you live in. And, when a person receives criticism from the people around him, he tends to develop a defense mechanism. A person then tends to avoid doing task just to avoid being criticized. And when this comes, they become lazy and unmotivated.


Regardless of the roots of being less motivated, there are various steps to which you can avoid and overcome procrastination. The very first thing that a man can do to overcome this situation is to discover his purpose. You have to be motivated also to be able to discover your purpose.


The Basic Kind of Motivation


There are two types of motivation and those are fear and greed. Though everyone trades off on these two kinds, you have to gravitate one to the other. In NLP (Neuro Linguistic Program), human motivational orientation is used and described as moving toward and to move away from behaviors. When you are to work on procrastination, this becomes very vital for you to understand your motivational direction and use the details for your benefits.


If you know and learn to move on in the direction of rewards than away from the negative consequences, then you can consciously set for yourself to take advantage in that learning. For instance, you associate with the people who dependably act out of fear of being failed, this might be more appropriate for you to keep away from this kind of person and seek company to someone with the same orientation on your own. It’s just like a little adjustment to your surroundings that influence your behavior in a more positive manner. This will lead you to an essential motivation.


To stop procrastination, you have to make a change and try to use a personal change program such as the NLP or the Neuro Linguistic Program. This technique helps you to assist with the personal changes that you have to do in yourself in order to stop the condition. Many people suffer from procrastination without knowing that they are already procrastinated. NLP is one of your options to overcome procrastination and just a piece of advice, don’t procrastinate when you will act for this program for your betterment.

Regards

Mark J Holland

NLP Mind Coach

If you enjoyed this article, then perhaps you would like to learn more about NLP. It's a powerful system of tools and techniques that can help you enhance your life and the lives of others. To learn more about NLP courses, approved by the American University of NLP, go here: NLP Practitioner Certification Courses

For more information about setting up a One-On-One Skype or Telephone NLP Mind Coaching Session with NLP Mind Coach Mark J Holland Visit: http://www.nlpmindcoach.com  

Using NLP to Overcome Barriers... by Mark J Holland NLP Mind Coach

NLP is a program that can be very helpful to individuals who have problems with their mental and physical communication skills. It stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming that opens the eyes of individuals to the importance of mental programming and efficient way to communicate with other people. Communication plays a great role in the success of every individual, and this is one of the facts which greatly explain the importance of NLP. It can help people to express themselves and to make other people understand them. Well, anyone wanted to be heard and understood especially if they wanted something that is really hard to acquire like a job that requires a good communication skills.


On the other hand, NLP has also great roles when it comes to conquering mental barriers. There are times when most individuals forbid themselves to speak or explain for themselves and prefer to just let other people judge them and say something for them. Well in fact, they can actually do a favor for themselves by being able to express their own. Thus, the following are some of the instances in which NLP could prove its great role when it comes to conquering mental barriers:


Cowardice in doing essential things in achieving the things that they wanted to achieve.


This can explain the best role of NLP in conquering mental barriers. It is fairly explainable why individuals become coward in expressing themselves through words especially if they have to talk to several individuals or especially if they have to owe something to a certain person. Well, what’s keeping them is their beliefs and fear of being rejected. NLP further explains that it is a fact that a person will not always receive praises once he speaks; and that should be accepted. Sometimes, he needs to receive rejections so he can further analyze his weakness. This could allow him to formulate alternative solutions for his self-improvement so that the next time around, he knows exactly the better approach to express himself. Oftentimes, with those rejections, he can become more creative and have essential ideas to be uttered sooner.


Fear of acquiring failures.


This fact is quite explainable since there is no one who will want failures in life. But if you will look on the positive side of life, you will probably realize that a normal individual greatly needs failures to gain courage and guts to face all the challenges along their way. Neuro Linguistic Programming further explains to people how they will have mental setup so they can get the things that they wanted. At the same time, they can perfectly figure out how they will face or take failures in a way that can be helpful to them. This way, they can further avoid mental barriers that involve their confidence and courage to venture in the world that they wanted to be.


It can make people go out of their shells with their chins up.


Most individuals usually failed once they have to speak for themselves in front of
several people because they are too shame to do so. NLP can greatly help those individuals by enabling them to go out of their shells with their chins up. Meaning they can face crowd and further speak for themselves without any barriers, not even mentally, nor emotionally. It is explainable why some people are having a hard time in speaking for themselves since they may have had previous experiences that make their hesitations grow. This is where NLP can be of great help to individuals since it can make people gradually face their fears and hesitations.


Once you believe that you are facing those drawbacks in yourself then you can consider having NLP training or you can at least make a thorough search about what this training and program is all about. This way, you can develop some of its principles in you in any case you prefer. Somehow, learning various facts all by your self can be fairly beneficial considering that trainings and program participation these days are expensive.


Nevertheless, this is not to imply that you don’t have to spend something in developing the teachings or the principles of NLP. Of course, there are instances that you should still have to. The bottom line is that, you have to search for instances that can enable you to save money in learning from it. As much as possible, you will need guts, skill, and knowledge once you prefer to learn things by yourself. Now, if you think that you have those then by all means you can achieve almost everything that you wanted to achieve in life.


It is all what it takes, therefore you will still need to assess yourself whether you will need NLP training or you can have it by yourself. Always keep in mind that if you wanted accurate assessment then you must do it for your own self since no one can assess the things for you but you, yourself.

Regards

Mark J Holland

NLP Mind Coach

If you enjoyed this article, then perhaps you would like to learn more about NLP. It's a powerful system of tools and techniques that can help you enhance your life and the lives of others. To learn more about NLP courses, approved by the American University of NLP, go here: NLP Practitioner Certification Courses

For more information about setting up a One-On-One Skype or Telephone NLP Mind Coaching Session with NLP Mind Coach Mark J Holland Visit: http://www.nlpmindcoach.com  

Why NLP Works For Self-Help? by Mark J Holland NLP Mind Coach

The Neuro Linguistic Program or the NLP can be a great help to people to develop self confidence and to succeed in their every venture. It is a great training that extensively involves communication which is very important at all times. Every person varies from each other when it comes to attitude, limitations, and even skills and knowledge. Thus, there are individuals who seldom show their own selves in public and just prefer to limit themselves to very simple and boring lifestyle. Well, in fact if they choose to undergo a certain NLP training then it can be possible for them to realize how important for a certain person to his or her own self be.


Every person has to make it a point that they have clear and sound communication with others, probably with their friends and family so that they can perfectly realize the things that they should need to work out and the things that they should need to get rid of. However, there are instances that a person can’t be good in formulating great, concise and clear words for communication hence they cannot afford to voice it out; and this exactly answers why NLP works and help people develop self confidence. It is because of the fact that NLP training involves both human intellect and skill so that they can communicate well.


There are instances when a person feels that he is very good in talking to others and confident that he can use communication to extensively explain for his own self. But when it comes to his turn to say something, all of the words that are on his intellect or the words that he formulated ahead of his speech are gone with the wind. In this case, a person should greatly need to undergo NLP training. There are various types of NLP trainings; therefore you should need to determine first which one can suit you best. You are the only one who can determine which type of this training you should attend to, since you are the only one who knows your limitations and skills.



The two things that you should greatly develop are discipline and honesty. At once, you have to carefully and honestly analyze the things that you can do and achieve in communication. Always keep in mind that you will essentially need this if you want success in your NLP training and if you want to experience and enjoy the help it could provide you in developing yourself for the better. People that are so shy is fairly understandable but if these individuals ignore ways to overcome this then they are likely putting themselves into just one place or worse into jail.


Jail means that they cannot afford to explore and know themselves better because they have limiting beliefs which is what exactly the meaning of “jail.” Once you think that you are this kind of person then you better change for better now and attend NLP training as much as possible. It can greatly help individuals to explore and discover new things in them day by day through having enough and clear communication to people around them. It is always nice talking with several people. Remember that talking or having conversation with various individuals can lead you to both knowing and sharing things which can also lead you to learning or having an idea of who you really are.


Most individuals often say that they fully know themselves. Well, the truth is that every individual should not stop discovering various things about them as much as they are discovering various facts and things in reality. This thing is unstoppable or limitless, therefore you can consider realizing the things that you can do, can say, can see, and can feel further. In having NLP training, one should use their four senses since it is also greatly needed in communication and communication plays a vital role in helping yourself achieve your goals.


These days, people have to be wise and should enhance their skills in communicating with others. If you think that you can’t then you can at least start communicating via chat, mails, or emails which you would likely begin writing your thoughts. Then later, you should try to talk about it, maybe with the people you are fond to first so that you can get use to it. Later on, you will just realize that you are half way to your goals and you are very good in communication.


NLP is behind every human’s success; neuro for your intellect and linguistic for the best communication that you essentially need. This is really very important when it comes to helping one’s self in achieving both tangible and intangible goals. In general, one should need to consider NLP training especially if they wanted to achieve anything yet you are being forbidden by your self limiting thoughts as well as your poor communicating skills and guts.






Regards

Mark J Holland

NLP Mind Coach

If you enjoyed this article, then perhaps you would like to learn more about NLP. It's a powerful system of tools and techniques that can help you enhance your life and the lives of others. To learn more about NLP courses, approved by the American University of NLP, go here: NLP Practitioner Certification Courses

For more information about setting up a One-On-One Skype or Telephone NLP Mind Coaching Session with NLP Mind Coach Mark J Holland Visit: http://www.nlpmindcoach.com  

What Is NLP? from Mark J Holland NLP Mind Coach

NLP or the Neuro Linguistic Programming is a very essential education program that involves both human senses and their communication methods. This can greatly help individuals in developing new essential behaviours and habits. This is all about learning prejudiced experiences. It can also be about discovering how individuals create their experiences inside their mind and how can they exactly go after developing new learning and behaviours that can be very necessary to enhance their living.


This programming is one of a kind as compared to various studies with regards to the behaviour of human since it is focused on replicating and learning talents. This only means that mastering the NLP program can greatly help individuals in developing themselves into more determined and responsible person. This can also help people in using and further developing their mental and physical talent. These factors can further develop self confidence in individuals and this can greatly help them in finding the career niche that they should be into.


NLP pertains to neuro and linguistic areas in the life of individuals since it includes essential components in fabricating necessary human experience when it comes to language and neurology. It also involves planned thoughts as well as a learning of the psychological cognitive practices behind the behaviour. It also provides the necessary skills and tools for the development of states of excellence in people, yet it also set up a system of giving power to presumptions and thoughts with regards to what people are and what communication really is.


NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming can also be about self-discovery that can allow you to further determine in which niche you will succeed. In human’s life, it is quite unavoidable to be doubtful which career you like, which profession you will learn, which job you will have or what business you will start. In this case, NLP can be vital for you since it can lead you to discovering your real place in this world. Some individuals usually stick to their profession or careers even if they are not a hundred percent happy and satisfied with it. Well, it is because of the fact that they need the job to survive from tough economic condition.


Learning NLP can let individuals to discover the careers, profession or business that they will start. And it is always along with the best possible ways in achieving their goals. Through NLP, an individual can also realize that anyone can achieve whatever he or she wanted as long as they are determined, skilled, and motivated enough. In doing so, they can never get themselves down once they are following an essential step to step process towards the peak of their goals.


The only thing that they should always keep in mind is the word “follow.” This is likely the way towards every success; follow your dreams, your heart, and your passion. Once you like what you are doing then you will surely gain the success that you wanted to gain. Try to imagine yourself staying in your job or profession while you are not too happy about it, isn’t it boring? Well, absolutely. Therefore, you have to be responsible enough, at least for yourself in following your dreams and consider all the possible ways towards your goals.


Generally, the main reason why most individuals stick to their job is the fact that there are people around them who are making them do so. Probably, their families and their inspirations in life, but if a certain individual know how to correctly communicate with everybody around them then they shouldn’t have to follow other’s will for them. If one has good communication ability then they can perfectly make people understand their part or what they wanted to mean. This way, they can further convince people including their relatives that what they wanted can cause good things to them.


NLP plays a vital role in one’s life, so if you wanted to find the profession or career in which you can feel happiness and satisfaction then you should need to consider this program. This can also be important to you in going out of your shell. Imagine being jailed or being stuck up to some place, can you imagine how boring and dull it is? This is how you will be boring once you don’t consider discovering your most inner part at the same time as when you never consider learning how to effectively communicate with the people around you.


This way, you can never explain your side and you can not even do the real things that you wanted to do. 


Instead, you will prefer things that are not exactly your choice but the choice of other people for you. In this case, you are more likely living your life for other people or person which is definitely not fair at all.

Regards

Mark J Holland

NLP Mind Coach

If you enjoyed this article, then perhaps you would like to learn more about NLP. It's a powerful system of tools and techniques that can help you enhance your life and the lives of others. To learn more about NLP courses, approved by the American University of NLP, go here: NLP Practitioner Certification Courses

For more information about setting up a One-On-One Skype or Telephone NLP Mind Coaching Session with NLP Mind Coach Mark J Holland Visit: http://www.nlpmindcoach.com  

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Mark J Holland is a professional NLP Mind Coach who teaches NLP tools and techniques for practical use in life.  For more information about NLP Mind Coaching visit http://www.nlpmindcoach.com

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