“If we listened to our intellect, we’d never have a love affair. We’d never have a friendship. We’d never go into business, because we’d be too cynical. Well, that’s nonsense. You’ve got to jump off cliffs all the time and build your wings on the way down.”
- Ray Bradbury
- Ray Bradbury
When life affects your attitude, you must be willing to bend and ready to seek out an alternative path to positivism. Living an inflexible life is akin to standing in the middle of a cyclone. No matter what you choose to hold onto, you will be blown away, and your plans will be changed for you. You must be willing to alter your methods and rules, and allow life to lead you to the places you are intended to go.
We must be willing to adapt to our circumstances if we expect to develop as a person.
Inflexible structures, no matter how solidly they are built, are more susceptible to breaking. You must learn to bend and give.
Flexibility also allows you to discover new opportunities you might otherwise have missed. For example, you might always drive the same way to work. However, what would you do if the morning traffic report indicated congestion on your usual route? You have a choice: you can either follow the same path you always take and sit in traffic for an obscene amount of time, or you can choose an alternate route. If you choose an alternate route, you might discover a new restaurant you didn’t know was around, or witness a sunrise over a whole new setting.
There are steps you can take to increase your flexibility and prepare yourself to be open to change. Here are a few tips to maintaining flexibility and being ready to take advantage of new opportunities as they arise:
Give yourself time. If you are scheduling an appointment or planning to travel somewhere, be sure you have more than enough time to make it. Try to leave some space: rather than saying “I’ll be there at 7:30,” give yourself permission to say “I’ll be there between 7 and 8.”
Formulate Plan B. Always have a backup plan ready in case something goes wrong. This way you are not caught unprepared and will have more of an idea what you can do in the absence of your original intentions. It is easier to be flexible when you already have alternatives in mind.
Do something different. If there are certain routines you follow for certain things, try throwing in a few alterations. For example, if you ride public transportation to work and always sit in the same section of the train or bus, decide to sit elsewhere for a few trips. You may notice things you hadn’t noticed before, or have the opportunity to meet new people.
Be spontaneous. Whenever possible, do something you would not ordinarily have done. Spontaneity is an excellent way to generate flexibility, because even you don’t know what to expect from yourself, and you will be forced to compensate for your lack of planning. Practice improvisation often, and look for creative approaches to typical problems. Different is good, particularly if it allows you to increase your flexibility and capacity for adaption.
Your attitude determines your ultimate outcome. When you develop the ability to control your attitude, you can manufacture your own happiness. Nothing happens without attitude, and the way you feel about anything you do will affect the way it is done.
If you cannot generate a positive attitude right away, you can simply “remember a time when you were in positive state, step into that time, the time when you were generating a positive attitude, now, see what you saw, hear what you heard and feel what you felt.” Use the power of that remembered state to increase your enthusiasm, and soon you will actually begin to feel good about whatever it is you’re trying to accomplish. Life is what you create of it, and your attitude is your life. Tend to it well.
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