If Your Buds Shrivel, Add More Fertilizer - Mark J Holland - NLP Mind Coach

“Fall down seven times, stand up eight.”
- Japanese proverb

Like any program, there may come a point in your quest to harness the power of positive thinking when you begin to backslide. If your situation becomes extraordinarily difficult, you may be tempted to stop using positive thinking altogether. However, this is absolutely the worst thing you can do.

“Most people achieve their greatest successes one step beyond what looked like their greatest failure.”
- Brian Tracy

Hang in there! Remember that the more changes you are trying to make in your life, the harder you will have to work at positive thinking to make them. It will get easier. The best thing you can do if you feel you’re starting to lose ground is to keep thinking positively. Today we will discuss things to keep in mind to help you through the rough patches.

When the Door Closes, Go Out the Window

The goals you’ve set for yourself are worth achieving. If you continually run up against obstacles that seem insurmountable, you may be approaching your objectives in the wrong way. There is always a solution to every problem; it just may not be what you expected.

Step back from your situation and try to look at the big picture. Are you throwing yourself repeatedly into a brick wall? If so, maybe instead of trying to burst through the opposition, you could try going around or climbing over it.
One example might be attempting to change jobs. Have you been putting your resume in at every available company, only to be turned down or told there were no positions open? In this case, you might think about your career as a whole.

Your current job may be a little too high-stress for your long-term satisfaction.

Are you truly satisfied doing what you’re doing? If you are, perhaps there are similar jobs in other industries you could look into. If not, you may want to consider abandoning your search for the same job at a different company and start training yourself for a whole new career. It’s never too late to start doing what you love, and those brick walls may be telling you that the path you’re trying to follow is not the right one for you.
Buried Alive: What to Do When Your Mountain Crumbles

Tragedy can strike any one of us at any time. Life is precarious and unpredictable, and there are any number of events that can trigger a major life change. Company layoffs, a sudden and unexpected move, a crippling accident, or the loss of a loved one can devastate the most carefully laid plans.

If a major trauma occurs in your life while you are trying to pull everything together, the first thing you should do is take some time for yourself. If you attempt to keep going as though everything is fine and nothing has changed, you will end up burying emotions that will come back to haunt you. Buried pain can poison your mental garden as effectively as arsenic-laced groundwater. It is essential to properly mourn major losses in life, if only so you can fully realize what is missing and learn to compensate for it.

When enough time has passed to allow you to view the situation with more objectivity, review the traumatic event using the lens of positive thinking. What was the bright side of the situation? Were there any lessons to be learned from it? How did the event change you, and can you use that change to become a stronger, more confident person?

Facing tragedy when it occurs is an essential step in your ability to persevere during rough times. You don’t have to hide from tragedy- but you also don’t have to let it crush your spirit and sap your energy. Mourn your losses when they occur, but develop the ability to discern when it’s time to move on.

Using Your Lifelines

Do you have a support network? When your good intentions start to slide off your path to success, it is helpful to have friends and family you can turn to and share your troubles with. Hearing words of encouragement, especially from people who know what you’re trying to accomplish, can provide you with the impetus you need to keep going, even when a bend in your tunnel prevents you from seeing the light at the end.

You should also be able to call on yourself and your own reserves of energy to carry you through difficult times. If you made a contract with yourself to reach a certain goal, go back and review it. Have you stuck to your original intentions, or have you drifted away from your success blueprint? One advantage to having a detailed plan to reach your goals is the ability to go back and figure out where you were led astray, and retrace your steps so you can return to your intentions. If you’ve discovered along the way that your goals have changed, you can map out a new path and start at the beginning.

Have you been keeping your journal? If you start to lose faith in the power of positive thinking, try looking back and reflecting on all that you have accomplished so far. Even if things are hard for you right now, you should have already proven to yourself that positive thinking works fairly well for being a bunch of crap. Don’t be afraid to pile on a new load of fertilizer when your first crop doesn’t make it all the way.

Whether you’ve had a few false starts or discovered your natural green thumb, you should soon be well on your way to the harvest, which is the realization of everything you want out of life. Your tender shoots will develop into sturdy plants; able to weather the worst storms life manages to send your way. You are about to see the first blossoms of your efforts, bursting from the melting crust of your former self like daisies in the spring.


Now you Take Immediate Control of your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny?.... make an appointment today with Mark Holland NLP Mind Coach…

• As your NLP Mind Coach, I’ll help you discover what’s really most important to you in your life.
• Then I’ll help you design a plan to achieve those things.
• I’ll work with you to eliminate any obstacles or blocks that stand in your way.
• I’ll partner with you all the way to success.
• Then I’ll celebrate with you!


• Also you can Learn Advanced Communications Skills to Influence others with Integrity and Ease.
• Learn the Structure of Rapport and How to create it in Seconds.
• Read Body Language and Voice, Understanding what is going on Beneath the Surface.
• Rearrange Your Own Reality to Create Profound Growth in yourself personally and in your business.
• Develop new unconscious habits that are consistent with the goals you want to achieve, and give you some tools you can use to immediately increase your sales.

Increase Self Esteem, Overcome Depression, Relationship Advice, NLP Coaching, and Life Coaching

Copyright 2008 Mark J Holland.
All Rights reserved.
http://www.markholland.com.au/
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Making Your Omelette: How to Learn From Your Mistakes - Mark J Holland

“Remember: you only have to succeed the last time.”
- Brian Tracy

Everyone makes mistakes. The good news is: failure can actually be good for you! Imagine for a moment that you consider taking on this belief “There is no failure only feedback”. The best way- and sometimes the only way- to learn how to make changes in your life and reach your goals is by figuring out how not to do things.

There is a process you can use to learn from your mistakes. The more you learn, the closer you will be to reaching your goals in life.

Give Yourself Permission
You know you’re going to make mistakes, especially if you’re trying to do something you’ve never done before. In order to be prepared for the inevitability of mishaps and misadventures, tell yourself that when you make a mistake, it’s still okay- and you’re not going to let mistakes stop you.

This is part of the process of instilling a positive mindset. When you know what to expect, it’s harder for surprises to set you back in your journey to reach your goals. Keep in mind that it is all right to make mistakes, and doing so is not the end of the world. The only people who don’t make mistakes are people who don’t attempt to do anything in the first place. Don’t be the person who regrets never even attempting to accomplish your goals because you were afraid of mistakes.

Make Interesting Mistakes

Once again: you’re going to make mistakes. When this happens, you will learn more by making interesting mistakes rather than stupid ones.

You may be wondering what, exactly, is an interesting mistake? The more complex and challenging your ultimate goal is the more spectacular your “Feedback” will be. The person who experiences a spectacular failure (“Feedback”) is far more likely to realize spectacular success. Here’s a quick example:

STUPID MISTAKE: Stubbing your toe on the rake you left lying in the back yard.

INTERESTING MISTAKE: Turning $30 worth of powdered sugar and chocolate chips into inedible bricks while trying to start your chocolate-making company because you misread the thermometer.

The first mistake will teach you to put your tools away when you’re done using them, but this is something you probably should have already known. The second mistake, however, is far more valuable to you. It teaches you how not to read a thermometer, and you will never make the same mistake again. Now you’re one step closer to realizing your dream to start a chocolate making company. What will your next mistake be?

‘Fess Up

The ability to admit that you’ve made a mistake is crucial to the learning process. This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to announce your mistake to the world. However, you do have to be honest with yourself. Owning up to your mistakes is important, not only in your attempts to learn from them, but in the entire process of using positive thinking.

When you admit your mistakes to yourself, be careful not to judge your actions harshly. Your thoughts should not be along the lines of I screwed this up, and I’m never going to get this right. Don’t let your mistakes teach you not to learn from the feedback. Instead, think I made a mistake, and now I know not to do that again. The biggest lesson in making mistakes can be found in your taking responsibility for them, and then doing something to correct what went wrong.

Pinpoint Your Error

“For want of a nail, the horseshoe was lost...”
- Nursery rhyme (anonymous)

Speaking of what went wrong...do you know why you made the mistake? You cannot learn anything from your mistakes if you don’t know why it occurred. If things go wrong, and it isn’t clear to you what happened, backtrack along the path that brought you to the error and figure out where you strayed.

James R. Chiles, in his book Inviting Disaster: Tales from the Edge of Technology, relates the sordid tale of a floating dormitory in the North Sea built for offshore oil workers. During one night, the dormitory rolled over in the water and killed over a hundred people. The engineers responsible for building the dormitory raced to find an explanation, and ultimately discovered that one small crack in the support structure, which had been painted over instead of properly repaired, was responsible for the chain of events leading to the disaster.

Discovering the origin of your own mistakes will help you avoid potential disaster. Take the responsibility to investigate your mistakes thoroughly, so you can avoid the snowball effect one small error can have.

Talk About It

Though you don’t have to confess your mistakes, it is sometimes helpful to talk over your troubles with a sympathetic ear- particularly if that ear belongs to a person who knows something about the goal you’re trying to reach.

If you’re having trouble getting through something, there is nothing wrong with asking for help. Seek out an expert or someone you know who’s been through the same experience you’re having, tell them what you feel you’re doing wrong, and listen to what they have to say. Often the most valuable advice we receive comes from unexpected sources, so don’t hesitate to ask someone else.

Can’t find an expert? The simple act of talking to a friend or loved one about your troubles can be the catalyst you need to keep going despite your mistakes. You may be able to work out exactly what you need to change in your approach as you discuss what you’ve been doing aloud; or you might simply end up feeling relaxed, refreshed and ready to tackle the problem again.

Keep Good Records

Mistakes may not seem very amusing to you while you’re making them, but some day you’ll be able to look back and laugh. You will also be able to look back and learn. By keeping a detailed log of your progress, mistakes and all, you will have a solid blueprint you can follow over and over again to reach your objectives.
Following is a sample error log. You can use this format, or create your own, as long as you remember how to read it!

ERROR LOG: Replacing interior wall with built-in bookshelves
DAY PROJECT STEP LESSONS LEARNED FROM ERRORS MADE
1 Remove existing plasterboard wall Check to make sure no breakable objects on opposite side before using sledge.
2 Cut, fit and install backing for shelving unit Be sure entrance door to house is wide enough to accommodate lumber before attempting to bring inside.
3 Install shelf brackets Measure shelf distance before installing brackets. Nothing fits on 3” wide shelf.
3 Cut and fasten shelves Do not use rotary saw on couch.
4 Buy new couch See previous error.

When you follow the process to learn from your mistakes, you will notice exponential growth in your mental garden. Mistakes are part of life; without them, we would have no discovery- and not much to laugh about.


How can you Take Immediate Control of your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny?.... make an appointment today with Mark Holland NLP Coach…

• As your NLP Coach, I’ll help you discover what’s really most important to you in your life.
• Then I’ll help you design a plan to achieve those things.
• I’ll work with you to eliminate any obstacles or blocks that stand in your way.
• I’ll partner with you all the way to success.
• Then I’ll celebrate with you!


• Also you can Learn Advanced Communications Skills to Influence others with Integrity and Ease.
• Learn the Structure of Rapport and How to create it in Seconds.
• Read Body Language and Voice, Understanding what is going on Beneath the Surface.
• Rearrange Your Own Reality to Create Profound Growth in yourself personally and in your business.
• Develop new unconscious habits that are consistent with the goals you want to achieve, and give you some tools you can use to immediately increase your sales.

Increase Self Esteem, Overcome Depression, Relationship Advice, NLP Coaching, and Life Coaching

Copyright 2008 Mark J Holland.
All Rights reserved.
http://www.markholland.com.au/
====================================

I'd love to read your comments below…

Procrastinating Procrastination - Mark J Holland - Motivation one Day at a time.

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Procrastinating Procrastination Today you will discover a tool that will help you to remove the procrastination habit out of your life and start moving forward in the achievement of exactly what you need to accomplish in your life now 1. Uncover your Undesired State 2. Create your Desired State 3. Swish the undesired state away 4. And replace it with the new desired state Now it is encouraged to repeat this process at least 7 10 times to help change your neurology to the new desired state. Discover things about yourself that will start your transformation toward understanding exactly what you need to do to begin the journey of self discovery and ultimate success in your life. Do you need help in the following areas? Anxiety, Depression, Self-Help, Stop/Quit Smoking, Confidence, Marriage, Hypnosis, Mental Health, Self-Esteem, Anger management, Insomnia, Happiness, Positive thinking, Success, Fear, Motivation, Weight Loss This program is for you Why an NLP Coach? Three reasons why we need an NLP Coach? 1. An NLP Coach can give you perspective as often we can be too close to see things objectively. 2. An NLP Coach will help fill the gaps of our ignorance and will simplify the process, guide us through the complicated parts, help us avoid the pitfalls and warn us against the dangers. 3. An NLP coach gives us patience in learning any new skill there is a learning curve and with the help of a coach you will discover the power of patience as we struggle through failure to achieve mastery. Remember there is no synergy on your own, it takes at least two, and most successful people have coaches. They recognise the need to have a coach as it is part of their leverage; you are only as powerful as your coach. If you were to think back over your life you may notice that you have had a number of coaches. Who was the biggest influence in your life and what was the learnings you discovered? As you think back to that time, what has been the positive learnings you have experienced in your life up until now? Studies on the benefits of personal coaching have found that personal coaching has helped people in the following ways: Increased self-awareness (68%) Improved goal setting (67%) Live a more balanced life (61%) Lower stress levels (57%) Increased self-confidence (52%) Enhanced communication skills (40%) Improved project completion (36%) Better relationships at work (33%) Fuller family relationships (33%) Ability to enjoy life more (32%) Career Advancement (24%) Anxiety Depression Self-Help Stop/Quit Smoking Confidence Marriage Hypnosis Mental Health Self-Esteem Anger management Insomnia Happiness Positive thinking Success Fear Motivation Weight Loss Imagine achieving every important Goal you have ever set in your life Easier, Faster and more enjoyable than you every thought possible Imagine creating a steadfast belief in yourself and the ability to create the results you desire in your life. What would you accomplish? Imagine you could create an incredible life of financial wealth. Create change and make it last Helping you create radical transformation, helping you transform your Physical, Financial, Emotional, and Spiritual Life. Take control of the most important asset you have in your lifethe power of your mind.

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